Are you in a violent relationship?

In the year 2000 the Puerto Rican Police reported 5,389 incidents of domestic violence were the victim was 12 to 24 years old. In the U.S.A. at least 40% of teens between 14-17 years old, said that they have seen a friend being abused by their boyfriend/girlfriend. And 12 to 35 percent say they have been abused at some point.

"Lo que no dije" or "What I didn't say" was created based on a personal experience, research and interviews to battered women. This survey is for you, so that you know signals and you can see by answering if you are in a violent relationship. It is based on dating violence, but can apply to domestic violence as well. Be sincere, and at the end just click submit, this will help spreding the word, and your identity will be always secure.

PLease mark the ones that apply to your relationship.

You have experimented some type of physical abuse from your partner.This includes throwing objects at you, bitting or kicking.
X

Your partner it's mean to you, and he/she offends you in front of your family or friends.
X

Your partner is jealous about everything, he/she doesn't let you talk with people from the opposite sex and he/she gets angry if you do.
X

He/She has a bad character most of the time and blames you for it.
X

You are afraid of your partners reaction and you are afraid of him/her.
X

He/She controls your money.
X

He/She keeps track of your activities and exercises control of what you do or when you do it.
X

He/She controls your calls, asks who it is, sometimes checks your cellphone without asking. If he/she doesn't recognize who it is, he/she gets mad and asks that you explain who it is and why they are calling you.
X

Tells you how to dress, and says you provoke people. Says he/she says that for your own protection.
X

Says who you can talk to and says constantly that because you are with him/her you shouldn't see people from the opposite sex, if you do he/she gets angry.
X

Your partner does not want to use protection during sex.
X

He/She has raped you or you have done it under pressure (had sex).
X

He threatens you saying that if you don't do what he says, he's/she's going to dump you or harm you.
X

You have tried to dump him/her and threatens to kill you, hurt you or kill himself/herself.
X

You have sacrified your dreams or goals to please your partner. Example, you want to study something and he/she fights about it, or tries to convince you that you shouldn't because the relationship or his/her ideas are more important or relevant. You may had changed what you wanted to study so you had more time for him/her.
X

When you try to end the relationship he/she asks that you forgive him/her and promises to change.
X

When you try to break up with him/her assumes that you have another person or tries to blame you for it (for the mistakes or the things that went wrong in the relationship).
X

Has followed you, called you a lot, has gone to activities that you attend to for no reason that to watch you, or appear in activities you do when you try to break up with him/her or you say you are doubting the relationship.
X

If you marked one or more you may be in a dating violence relationship. Knowing where you stand and what can you do can save your life.

I'm available and willing to help you if you have any doubts or anything feel free to write to loquenodije@yahoo.com I could also give you the nearest centers that can help you. It's free. Don't become a victim of silence.

1-800-799-7233
National Help Line in the U.S.


Survey created and managed using the Survey Builder, one of the tools from the Center for History and New Media